"What are you looking for in
a man?"
How do YOU answer such a
question? When we were younger, the obvious answer was to describe the person
opposite you "well I'm looking for a tall, dark and handsome man, short
and spiky hair with a beauty spot under his left cheek..." (of course this
was providing you actually liked the person you were looking at ;) Are a bit
old for that old ploy now?
I was asked this recently, and I
wasn't sure how to reply. Thank the universe for the expected pause between
messages! I eventually replied "I'm looking for someone who is honest, has
a high integrity, treats me with respect, is happy in his work, is loyal and is
faithful." Er, who isn't looking for this wondrous being? The fact is,
aren't we all looking for that in a person? The real question is, what specific
qualities am I looking for?
Basically, my ideal guy is made up
of all the good parts of the men I have dated in the past, minus all the crappy
annoying baggage they came with. Call me the ever pessimist, but I think that
if I was to describe my perfect man, no one could ever live up to that
expectation (and I would end up scaring every guy off!) I mean, I have a
specific height, shape and skin-tone, I know what I would like his hair to look
like, his favourite movies to be, his choice of career, his choice of football
team, his favourite order on a Chinese takeaway list... It's a ridiculous list
of perfection, and knowing my luck, that guy would walk into my life and probably
not go for me anyway. I'm more realistic than that. And I think I wouldn't mind
being with someone who didn't have all of these qualities wrapped up in a neat
package...
Is it ever a good idea to just say
"I don't know"? to this question? Does this set an unrealistic tone?
Does this mean "I'll settle for whatever you give me"? And what if
the person opposite you does not meet your idea of "what you are looking
for"? Do you just down your drink in one and bid them farewell?
I guess my overall question is
this: how do YOU answer this question? Examples would help, or just your
general ideas. I want to be able to answer this question better in the future.
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